“ Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere and sometimes in the middle of nowhere you find yourself”. In your journey do not alienate family members and close friends who in most cases can lean into your pain. Experience has shown that many of them are able to grieve with you and not mourn, but it is okay. The mourning is regrettably unique to you but position yourself to receive some comfort and assistance from significant other.

Your grief should only follow your time frame and no matter what anyone says about time healing all wounds, ‘the truth is that there are certain sorrows that never fade away until the heart stops beating and the last breath is taken’
Be very mindful of ‘miserable comforters’ who believe they have the right words for you to ‘move on’. They are like. The friends of Job in the Bible ( Job 2: 11-13).

What you need do is to identify a ready listener among family and friends with whom you can share your thoughts and feelings without you feeling “rushed through’ or chastised for the roller coaster emotions of the grief journey. However be conscious of the fact that grief is almost impossible to deal with alone. If at any time you feel you are not getting the right support from family and friends, please find out a Support Group in your area that offers you the opportunity to learn from those who have had similar experience of life. A Support Group offers you a platform for you to share your feelings and you also pick up tips on grief management.